You have always complained to your friends, your family, or your loved one that you are suffering from a relationship with a narcissist even if it is a friend or your significant other. However, have you ever thought that it is you who have narcissism not the other person, but you have never realized it. Well, if that is the case, let’s look through some of the traits narcissist people have to figure out if you are one of them.
1. Has a grandiose sense of self importance
This is one of the defining personality traits of a narcissist. Narcissist believe that they are so special and unique that an average and ordinary person will not understand them and cannot associate with them. They only want to associate with high-status people, places, and things. They will often exaggerate their achievements and talents and will expect recognition and admiration from others.
For example, if you talk to other people about your relationship with your partner, you will often talk about how much you have contributed in the relationship or how lucky the other person is to have you. Another example is when you have a conversation with someone, you constantly think that they are stupid and will not understand what the superior thing you are trying to say while you are the one who do not have any idea what you are talking about.
2. Lives in a world of fantasies about their delusions
Narcissists live in an imaginary world where they have unlimited success, power, ideal love, and attractiveness that they have control since reality is often not supporting their point of view.
You always have to be in absolute control about everything in your life including romantic relationship, work, platonic relationship, and so on. You enjoy being leaders because that is how you can dominate people and command them to do things the way you want it. In a relationship, you are often being the person that makes your half feel bad about themselves because you like putting people down.
3. Requires excessive admiration and recognition
Narcissists live on those compliments and praises for their achievement to feed their enormous sense of superiority. They expect to receive a lot of admiration for anything that they have done even if it is trivial. They surround themselves with people that can give them constant affirmation.
"Seeking admiration is like a drug for narcissists," said Mitja D. Back, a psychologist at Johannes Gutenberg University in Mainz, Germany. "In the long run, it becomes difficult because others won't applaud them, so they always have to search for new acquaintances from whom they get the next fix."
They also have a big sense of entitlement. Since they consider themselves special and unique, other people should treat them in a favorable way as if it is their duty. They think that they can get whatever they want, and everyone will have to assist them on their way.
4. Exploits others without shame
Narcissists lacks or do not have empathy for others. They will try their best to serve their needs first before they can think of anyone else. As a consequence, they have no guilt or shame in exploiting other people until they can achieve their own wish. They are unwilling to recognize or empathize with anyone’s feelings or needs. Narcissists will not think about how their behaviors can affect other.
For example, they can take advantage of their significant other until they can achieve something in the relationship. The same thing gores with their friendships or their relationship with co-workers.
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